Guys, I need your help. I got a little assignment from J:
"Trying to make a list of ideal skills that the perfect master should have. Am putting less emphasis on the moral skills (as I mostly believe that you either have it or not: things like empathy for your subject, common sense etc) but actual skills: bondage, first aid, cp techniques...
See if the guys in your blog are willing to give you a hand with that."
So what do you think, what practical skills should the perfect master have? Feel free to just describe your ideal master (even if it's not 100% realistic).
I've been thinking about it, and the first few things that came up for me were all related to personality and attitude (towards various aspects of BDSM), I never really thought about the practical skills. So I could use your help :)
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Hi Rauber.
ReplyDeleteA perfect Master. Ideal Master.
Understanding
know everything running in slave mind
Tricky
know how to trick the slave and therefore earn the Power of controlling
Lovely
Nothing more than a lovely Master
Daring in a safe way
Pushing Limit is a fun part and heart melting part
hmm, what else....?
Sincerely
boy.
Very nice boy :) I like that you mention "tricky", not many doms can do that... it's part of being creative I think.
DeleteThe Perfect Master must
ReplyDeletelike boots for sure...
like rubber gear absolutely...
be good with the ropes...and general capable in bondage games...
be strict and disciplinarian...
but also sweet and understanding...
must use his boi for his pleasure but also pleasure his boi...
finally must be Greek...lolololololololololololololololololol
Nice reply Boss :P
DeleteRauber, I really doubt that I can help you out on that. As the question also is: what skills do you want to practize as a master, or what practice do you wnat from a master to have when you are the sub. It is very individual. And all skills can be learned in my opinion, just as necessary. What cannot be learned in my opinion indeed is the psychological mindset behind, with everyone involved enjoying his role. Just as love for a sub cannot be taught, but may be experienced. Emotions just are more important than any skills imo, although skills may come handy if compatible with the sub, to let him experience the attention, care and love he craves for within a session. You know very well that I have very limited real experience, so my comment is more based on my thoughts than real-life experiences, but I nevertheless hope that it may be of value for you. Emotions are by far more important than skills imo. Although I understand that without skills and necessary equipment, emotions might not be easily transfered or expressed, for everyone to feel most intensely. I of course have certain preferences, chastity or latex being some of them among others. Of course, SSC of BDSM should always be guaranteed. And tolerance, as no-one can expect to just fit to each other. So the bottom might have to learn to enjoy some of the top's preferences, while the top might have to learn to accept and use some of the sub's preferences, to finally have an amazing session with each other. Of course, if it does not fit at all, it is better to admit such for each party involved, and then move on, as bitter as it at first might seem.
ReplyDeleteAgain, skills are not the most important aspects of any session. Skills can be learned, and preferences can be expanded. Learning something new is a thrilling experience. And I think that even a sub can support a top for learning something, especially when the top is inexperienced while the sub is more experienced. The latter is not necessarily topping from the bottom in my opinion. It is more about revealing something about the sub, for the top to learn and take advantage of, for the benefits of both involved. This is my honest opinion that I like to share with you.
I cannot provide you with a list, giving details about any universal perfect top or Master. I think the latter is just an illusion, limiting anyone thereby, reducing him to a role to play. I do not want to see you playing roles, I want you to be yourself. And be aware that preferences might also a matter of change, just as human beings like your or me are developing as part of life. So what is most important is what any individual wants and needs at the time of any session, clearity about it for each party involved and honest communication about it between everybody involved being key.
So there might be a list of psychological aspects involved for being a perfect Master, just like the one TC provided. But such is not what you asked for. But I to my regret cannot provide you with any list of skills for being an ideal Master, as you should know best for yourself, or get yourself informed by either reviewing things on any media like the internet, judging for yourself which one turns you on the most, or experienceing them, just by trial and error, to finally come to your personal conclusion about it. Trial and error, just as humans get their experiences to finally understand about themselves, at least for the time they make such experiences.
Regards, Roland
Thanks for the interesting comment Roland!
DeleteMy Sir...
ReplyDeleteHe'd like me as a person and not just looking for an ass to fuck. He's accept me as a person too and enjoy me company, not only as his slave, but as his lover, his companion. He'd welcome my company when we go away or go to visit people. He's be able to help me rebuild my self-esteem and would ensure no one or nothing would tear it down again. He'd be as much my HubbyBear as he is my Sir.
In the bedroom, he's be strong, strict, controlling, demanding, but safe, caring, loving too. He'd like to dominate me, like to see me dominated. Likes to play, bondage, collars, hoods, floggers, CAGES!! WOOF WOOF!!! But as intense our scenes are in the bedroom, that's where they stay. Outside I am my own man. I'm his property in the bedroom, but my own outside.
I love your reply BearPaul, I really hope you'll find someone like that!
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